The history of racism and violence is upsetting. Chances are you can't though. He is also a bit too neat. Weirdly, one of the best sexes I ever had was with a lesbian who felt remorse and as though she had betrayed her fellow lesbians.
We met on the day he was accepted into medical school, lived together for his rotations during 3rd and 4th years and were all set to move together for residency. Once you both die, you will not be married in the afterlife and she will get assigned to be the polygamous wife of someone else. If you want to go against that trend, one of you will almost certainly change perspective. My nonmember husband and I have been married for almost 18 years. I was the bishops' daughter who went to BYU but didn't go on a mission because I was already married with a 10 month old by my 21st birthday.
As the patriarchal leader, it will be up to you to figure it out and to dispel her unrealistic fantasies. You have to choose what's right for you, but you have to figure it out. I let her know it's not healthy to expect someone else to change - we can only control ourselves and not others. As more and more people marry out of their faith, the subject of interfaith marriage will become more and more important. Expect that you will do the majority of parenting and attend school functions alone. We all wondered why should would go against such a blessing.
Harmony will prevail if the husband appreciates the value of church service and attendance. True Believer Mos base their actions on a set of priorities that make no sense to Nomos. But now, we embrace our spiritual differences.