To conduct the study , Johnstonbaugh, a sociology doctoral student, had more than 1, college students from seven universities fill out an online survey asking them about their rationale for sexting. But the odds were four times higher for women than men to say that they sent a nude in order to prevent the recipient from losing interest or to prevent the person from looking at images of others. I sent one. Women were twice as likely as men to say they sent a sexy pic to boost their confidence. So sometimes, sending nudes is a way to assert sexual agency. Desire emerges in response to, rather than in anticipation of, sex. If a man feels entitled to a nude pic, the act of sending one understandably feels transactional and a bit cheap. Interestingly the findings of the study were a bit different for queer women. It shows that, unfortunately, we still have a long way to go.
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Ever been asked to send nudes or sexy selfies? Yeah, who hasn't! Sexting is just one of those things that's going to happen, and there's no point denying it. Instead, the best thing we can do is educate people on how to do it safer, and to only to send nudes or erotic pics if they're really comfortable, and actually want to. When a Reddit user started an AskMen thread asking, "How important are naughty photos for a relationship? I am not talented and I suck at taking photos. Would not wanting to send and share naughty photos be a deal breaker or a turn off for you? Especially when getting to know a woman [and] thinking about having a serious relationship with her?
Technological advances have revolutionised dating experiences and sex lives too: apps, sexting , sex over FaceTime, and, of course, the big one. High-spec cameras, filtering and high-speed internet connections mean you can have the idea, whip it or them out, take the snap and send with barely a moment's thought. But why the change? Is this purely a generational thing? The rules around sending nudes seem fairly simple, but boundaries are overstepped constantly — usually by men. I never send them under those circumstances. Unwelcome nudes are the top turnoff, but a close second would be a nude photo with zero artistry.
You know what they say though, no risk, no reward. The reason this topic is so controversial is because of the approach far too many guys take. Ever the optimist though, I actually appreciate these guys. They set the bar so incredibly low for the rest of us. Everything else is easy. They fall into that community because they need help with dating and that community can be vocal.