My partner finishes her training in five years and she has expressed a strong desire to have children then. This came about after many hours and many days of prayer, scripture study, going to the temple, receiving a priesthood blessing, and speaking with people I greatly trust my mom, especially. But marriages don't last if you have to hold back ugly, sarcastic comments when your partner attends religious services or defends religious beliefs. And no one has the right to judge you for your decision. In the interfaith marriages that work where one is LDS and the other is not religious, it only works out when the LDS partner is not fully a believer anymore. When my nephews started looking at porn on computers everybody blamed me when it wasn't me. I do feel some of the pressure lifting off me in that I can start doing things for myself. Narcissism, androgyny, obsession with pop cultureвthe problems with Western women go on and on.
You have to choose what's right for you, but you have to figure it out. I suppose it depends on your personality. Today was my birhtday and my husband spent the whole day at work and all night working on his notes. I still feel enriched by the contrasts, but in the important things, we have largely come together. Think about what you want in a relationship. Jack is right about the demographics. The thing about General Authorities and General Conference, is that they give general counsel that is meant for the general population. One small thing to add here. He is in a way to become a Ex mormon. At best they just try to include you in the community, and at worst you are constantly told that you'll be welcome "when you're ready.