Outercourse is an option for sexual activity without intercourse. When you get down to the details, that means different things to different people. For others, outercourse means no penetration of any kind, including fingers, sex toys, and anal sex. Some choose outercourse as a safe sex alternative. They put boundaries around any activity that can cause pregnancy or transmit sexually transmitted infections STIs. For them, being abstinent may mean no outercourse. If you think of sex as any type of penetration, for example, then sticking to sexual acts without penetration can count as abstinence. Making out can be a great way to build intimacy. Kissing different parts of the body can help you and your partner discover what turns you on. Getting your massage on can be super sexy in the right circumstances.

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'Cuddling gives this satisfaction that nothing else sexual does.'
It's a sex position that's not quite a sex position: Swaddling is the terms for when two partners agree to fall asleep in the midst of penetration. That can mean penis-in-vagina, penis-in-anus, strap-on-in-vagina, et cetera, et cetera. Any penetration combo you can think of, happening consensually while you sleep, is swaddling. That's a lot to take in pun intended. Read on to learn all the nitty gritty details about the sorta sex position you've probably never heard about.
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At the end of the day, an unwanted boner is really no big deal and definitely nothing to be ashamed of. So first, a toast to the one-of-a-kind joy of platonic intimacy. Next, read these tips for cuddling in a nonsexual way, aka keeping that boner at bay.
No matter what he tells you, some small part of him is suddenly thinking about sex. It might even just be that he really just wanted to cuddle, but then being so close to you got him all riled up. No person's arm is meant to bend at this angle and bear weight for a sustained amount of time. Sorry in advance! What a gentleman. Where he can finally stretch out and relax.